Learning in small bits!!!

Some incidents in our life teach us a lot. We all sometimes draw conclusions about someone, just by  meeting them once. If that person behaves little weird or glacial towards us, on the first meet we brand them like that only. As we believe the famous adage " First Impression is the Last Impression". 

But , as we gradually know him, our thoughts get moderated. A little makeover happens. Time passes and our thought changes.Suddenly the person you once hated or ignored, you start liking, Isn't it? it happens with all of us. Do you know why? Its not that the person has changed in few days.He still possess the same body, mind , intellect etc. Its just that we have started focusing on the POSITIVE aspect of his/her  personality.

Have you ever noticed how ephemeral our opinion about any person is ?

Yes! our so called fickle decisions about others. But our opinion keeps on changing, still most of us remain attached to our old dogmas about that particular person.Why do we care so much about our opinions, which are going to change? As the axiom  says " Change is Constant ". 

 And change happens,say Why do some relations carry on and some breaks up soon? Some remain friends forever and some for few months? Any relationship exists only until we focus on the positive aspect of the relation, as we start noticing the negative qualities of the person our relationship with that person starts fading. Whosoever he/she is and whatever his/her relation with you is.

For example: Lets consider you met a guy and you both became good friends. You grew quite close. Your friend helped you in studies, behaved well, played with you,gave you money  if u needed etc. the heads side of the coin. Few months later you stay away from him, and why? Since you start seeing backside of the coin now Tails side- u find him bossy and  arrogant, u notice that he lends you money but the next day he wants it back, he behaved well but mostly he is rude etc. Its not that he has undergone a transformation or somebody has brainwashed him,its just that only your FOCUS has drifted.

 In the same way as you travel through your life's Journey, you will always have to face such situations and it depends on your dexterity to handle the situation. To make any relation consummate focus on the positive.Its just because of gaffe that we commit we sometime lose our real friends,  partners etc I know we all are fledglings, but it is  this gestation period that develops our gamut of experiences. Lets sip these bits of knowledge that are pervading all around us. Lets be a Gopal to each other i.e. a friend in knowledge and uplift each of us and the society from these petty emotions to bigger goals in LIFE..!!!